In the first part of the New Year’s Series, I talked all about the things I learned in 2017 and how I fared when it came to meeting the goals I set for myself in 2017. If you haven’t read that post, you may want to check it out since I may refer back to some of those topics in this post. If you’ve already read it then you know that this post is all about looking forward to 2018! I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what my goals are for 2018 and I’m excited to get it all written out so I can look back over the course of the year.
2017 was definitely a year of learning. 2018 is going to be a year of thriving and building on what I’ve learned. Here are the things I want to do in 2018.
Remember my priorities.
I really want to make sure I continue to put my family and those close to me first. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the internet, especially when social media contributes to part of your income. The money I make is a very small part of my income, honestly, but when social media is there it’s easy to forget that you see what people want you to see. I don’t want to be that way. I don’t want to forget to enjoy the people and things around me for the sake of a great picture. In order to put this into practice, I’m going to commit to doing more fun things with my family that take place outside of the house. I have a weird social anxiety that kicks in whenever Mike mentions going somewhere to do something that I haven’t fully researched. I wonder about traffic, parking, getting in, wondering if Maddie will like it, wondering if it’s worth the time, money, or crowds, and the list goes on. It has definitely kept me from doing things I know would be fun and that’s not ok. I also want to make date night a priority. Before Maddie was a toddler, we still sort of had date night because she would just sit in her chair and have her bottle. Now, she is a participant in dinner completely so we don’t get to go out to eat in peace much. I would like to make it a priority to get a sitter and go out to dinner with my husband more often.
Self care, not self love.
I talked about this in part one of this series, but I really want to focus on self care over self love. This means taking care of myself physically and mentally. I need to take my medicine correctly, I need to continue to be active, and I need to continue to work on maintaining balance in my life. This also includes nurturing the relationships I have with the people that matter. Part of this goal is eliminating the negative influences in my life and finding positive ones. I will be honest, there are some people I follow on social media that I really just shouldn’t. I either don’t like the content or I find it to be fake and weightless. I want to fill my life with positive, Godly influences that will impact me in a positive way. Yes, it’s my responsibility to react appropriately and I choose whether or not something impacts me negatively or positively, but if I know something isn’t bringing me joy I need to get rid of it. I also want to make sure fitness stays a positive aspect of my life. Exercise is physically beneficial, but I want to make sure to continue to associate it with making my body healthy in all ways, not just aesthetically. It’s very easy for me to use food and exercise as a way to control my weight and how I feel about myself. If I weigh a certain amount or notice certain things with the clothes I’m wearing, I tend to immediately obsess over how I can adjust my food and exercise to fix it instead of just continuing with an overall healthy lifestyle and letting my body balance itself out. I know I’ve made progress this year, mentally, but there’s a lot of room for improvement.
This is the biggest goal I have for 2018, so much so that I chose the word “authentic” as my word for 2018. I spent 2017 being someone I thought I wanted to be because of different influences, but I realized that, even though I thought I was being who I truly was, I wasn’t happy and it wasn’t me at all. I want to be the most authentic version of myself, regardless of what success that may bring me. Part of that is making sure I’m doing things because I truly want to do them. Obviously, there are things I have to do that I might not always enjoy (laundry, dishes, you get it), but this really stems from things I do in my spare time. I love writing. I want to blog more. To be honest, I stopped because I wasn’t getting the traffic I wanted- how ridiculous is that! Instead, I put energy into content elsewhere that just stressed me out and made me feel horrible about myself. Not happening in 2018. I will do things I enjoy, regardless of how successful they are. I want to do things because they are important to me, not because they are expected of me. I won’t be held to expectations I think society or other people have for me. Instead, I will hold myself to the expectations I have for myself as a mother, wife, colleague, and influencer- in whatever sense of the word.
All of those goals are pretty lofty and they are things that will take consistent work to achieve in my life, but I also have some tangible goals I want to meet.
I want to cook more new things. Maddie and I have been baking lately and it has been a lot of fun. I want to try new recipes with her and incorporate some fancier meals into our meal plans. I’m not talking fancy food every week, but maybe something fun and fancy once a month. If they’re successful, I’ll share them here! If not, well, pizza delivery is a thing that exists so it’s all good.
I also want to read more. I said this last year, but I mean it this time.
Thanks for reading my short New Year’s series! I hope it inspired you to make some goals for yourself and I hope you have an amazing 2018!
Question for you:
What are your goals for 2018?