Today is my 27th birthday and it’s really the first birthday I’m feeling “older.” I know I’m not old, by any means, but it’s one of the first years where my birthday doesn’t mean I have no responsibilities. In the past, my birthday has been a day where I do whatever I want. In college, the school year always ended before my birthday so I never had to go to class. I would get up, maybe go work out, and probably work a 3 or 4 hour shift at my part time job. Aside from that, I didn’t do anything responsible at all. It was my day to just do nothing. Now, I have a full time job and a toddler. I woke up this morning, got her a waffle and put on Sesame Street, got myself ready for work, then got her dressed and took her to school.
This isn’t a bad thing. I appreciate routine and I don’t need a HUGE party and a zillion presents on my birthday to know who cares about me. And it’s not like we don’t celebrate my birthday. Last night, we went to a Predator’s game and it was historic- literally! It was game 6 of the second round of the Stanley Cup Playoffs. We won, closed out the series, and now are headed to the Western Conference Finals for the first time in franchise history. It’s very exciting! I also got a pair of shoes that I’ve NEEDED (read: really really really wanted) from my husband. Tonight, I look forward to ordering a pizza, getting in my pajamas, and spending time with my family as we hang out in the living room and play with Maddie while Monday night Raw is on in the background. We celebrate my birthday, but it’s different and it’s made me kind of reflect on life and how things have changed and the things I’ve learned over the past year.
I’ve learned that people come and go in your life and that that’s okay. In high school and early years of college, losing friends really sucks and it kind of feels like the end of the world. In reality, you move on. Not in a flippant, “I don’t care” sort of way, but in a way where you realize that they were good for you in a certain season of your life and that’s all. This doesn’t mean their friendship wasn’t valued, by any means, but not all friends will last forever, and that’s totally okay.
I’ve learned that what other people think of you really doesn’t matter at the end of the day. There are so many people in the world and a lot of them aren’t going to like you. As long as you foster the relationships with the people close to you, what everyone else thinks doesn’t matter. You know how the saying goes: You can be the sweetest peach in the bunch but there’s still gonna be someone who doesn’t like peaches. Be yourself, make sure YOU like peaches, and everything else will fall into place.
I’ve learned that a relationship with God truly changes everything. It changes your relationships, your outlook on life, your attitude- everything. I could go into a whole post about how God has worked in my life but this post isn’t it. Maybe I’ll write that one in the near future, but what I can say is that I’ve learned that God really is in all the details and that, regardless of what you’re going through, good or bad, those things are happening for a reason and are working together for your good. Again, that’s a whole separate post, but it’s such an important life lesson.
I’ve learned how to pick my battles. Not everything needs a response, not every person needs to know your opinion on every topic.
I’ve learned that there’s a difference between waiting for your turn to speak and actually listening. Listening will get you further.
I’ve learned that you can’t be all things to all people.
26 was a good year for me and I’m excited to see what my 27th year of life brings!